Our emotions are a vital part of what makes us human. How we feel, process and express love, joy, sadness and compassion distinguishes us from one another and makes us unique. While one person might cry tears of joy at a loved one’s wedding, another may not shed a tear even on the saddest of occasions.
Emotion management is one of those things that we do not learn in a formalized setting. From the time we are very young, we observe the world around us, and learn how to manage our emotions by watching our parents, siblings and teachers. Toddlers who throw tantrums in grocery stores are not deliberately misbehaving, they simply have not yet acquired the skills to deal effectively with frustration, boredom or tiredness. Most of those toddlers grow up to become well-adjusted adults who know how and when it is appropriate to express emotion.
It is not that easy for everybody, though. Some people struggle to process emotions like anger, frustration and anxiety, and in severe cases, this can impede the individual’s ability to go to work or school, to maintain social and family relationships, and to perform normal daily activities.
Unfortunately, society has a tendency to negatively judge people with emotion management problems. At InnerSight Psychotherapy, we recognize that these impairments can result from a number of factors, including the following:
- Medical conditions and the drugs used to treat them
- A history of trauma or abuse
- Mental illness and addiction
- Major life events, such as bereavement, job loss or relocation
- A predisposition toward empathy or anxiety
- Some individuals on the autism spectrum struggle with either emotional processing or expression
The therapists and counsellors at InnerSight Psychotherapy do not treat emotion management problems by encouraging clients to suppress their emotions. Not only is emotional expression a normal part of life, it is necessary in order to achieve or maintain physical and mental health.
Instead, we will gently guide you in the following areas:
- We will help you become aware of what factors trigger the emotions that you experience intensely.
- We will help you find ways to control certain factors – for example, by telling loved ones what words and phrases trigger feelings of anxiety.
- We will encourage you to pay attention to your self-talk and avoid giving yourself unwarranted negative feedback.
- We will work with you to explore your thoughts and beliefs around feelings and emotions.
If emotion management is a painful area of your life, give us a call and we will help you move toward a life of greater confidence and contentment.